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yuumei — Don't Be Selfish
Published: 2012-11-13 18:37:44 +0000 UTC; Views: 443749; Favourites: 28580; Downloads: 0
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I was recently informed that my dad may not have much longer to live due to heart conditions, but of all the things to do before his death, seeing me is not one of them because his wife won’t allow it and he can’t be bothered to care. It’s weird to find out that while my dad is still alive, the last time I saw him 3 years ago is the last time I will ever see him again.
It’s hard to fight back the memories of how much things have changed since my youth, so I will just embrace it instead.
It’s funny how they used to say that they did everything for my sake. I’m sure they actually believed it themselves back then, but time has a way of changing people. I can’t help but find it ironic that the things they did to help the family ultimately torn it apart. Never coming home to make money, going abroad to study; distance makes the heart grow cold, and time weathers down all promises.
I had always been very understanding of their divorce. Hey, it happens. But as they built new lives, it became evident that I was not included. It doesn’t matter now, but at the time, I was still a minor and had to depend on them. It’s just like a slap in the face when your own mother tells you that you have nothing because your father didn’t pay for it. Adding to the list of things I don’t have is the right to see my dad before his death. The leftover child of that failed marriage is no longer a concern.
I feel so bitter right now it’s fucking disgusting.
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Hi. I saw this post years ago. This account of my is new but its not the first time I had DA account before. I sometimes make new ones because I somehow forgot the password from last time but I digress. My point is, I really emphasize with this artwork of yours and the fact that your sharing something personal with everyone to see. Even though I might not understand what you with through, I just wanted to say what I wish I got to say all those years ago when I first saw this at sixteen browsing Pinterest: It's going to be okay. Even though you lost your first family, you can always find a new one that will treat you better. I hope you're doing better now and enjoying the life you have with your art while looking forward to a better future. P.S. Your comic "Fisheye Placebo" is pretty good, though I haven't gotten into for years and have forgotten key parts of the plot but nice work with your art. I like how it envisions the perfect cross between cartoonish and realty. At least for me. Have a special life worth living.
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Have you found the light at the end of the tunnel? Have you found the people who become your family in life? I hope so. They exist. Even if they never accept and treat you like family ever again we must keep walking forward, one step at a time, and if you do there are people to find peppered in the path you walk. We all find them eventually. The people who earn there place as a family by showing with there actions that they are. Just be mindful. Some assholes try to use such things to be manipulative too.
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I still think about this all the time. It boggles my mind that any parent can be so callous towards their own child, and seemingly without even realizing it.
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I'm so sorry this has happened to you, it's just not right
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Wow, very powerful.
I saw this on Instagram and I thought I recognized the style as yours. They took off the end (the most powerful part no less) and put in an add.
Heres a link to it. www.instagram.com/p/Bpc4x5tn69…
I thought you'd want to know.
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I'm so sorry they put you through that, I hope you're doing better now.
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The one thing that your dad didn't pay is your creativity.
Sometimes speaking out comes in many ways. If they can't see or hear the meaning then it's their fault.
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This is outright disgraceful of a parent to do
I believe it's possible for you to be able to report your mom and take this to court. She doesn't have the right to not let you see your father, and she doesn't have the right in saying and making you feel like you're no longer part of the family
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This can't be looked down upon. I would like to hug you.
By the way, you have great skills as an artist.
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I have no words to describe it. The best work I've seen in dA.
It's unfortunate what your family life looks like, but I believe that a person with such an amazing talent as yours has a clever look at the world and can deal with this situation. Whatever you decide, I keep my fingers crossed for you!
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woow, that was really great, too sad but too realistic, i love it!!
I think Christ is the only way to get a happy family (the real christ)
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Hey if you ever need anyone to talk to about literally anything. You can always let me k ow. My mom left when I was 2 and I have no memory of her. I'm 23 now and she hasn't bothered to find me on Facebook or anything. I've struggled a lot. Not the same way you have. But I definitely know what hardship feels like. And who knows. An extra friend could save my life one day
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I'm sorry.....
I don't think writing a cheap Deviantart comment will help you in any way, or comfort you. I've been through a divorce situation too, but my life has been very good (despite that), and I can't understand that big amount of pain and disappointment you had (have) to face-
but I will pray for you.
And thank you for posting your lovely art- so many people love to look at it and admire it- even if it's (only) online--- it's still a great joy!
Thank you, yuumei!
(I especially love the city-at-night paintings- absolutely gorgeous!!)
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Sometimes I wonder if your parents, especially your mother has seen the beautiful art you create and the money you make from it. I am curious about how they feel about that now.
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They have no heart for art.
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Do you really believe egoistic people like that running solely after money would "understand" art???
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exactly those are the types of parents who don't really give a shit about their children.
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This just hit home pretty hard....fuck... ;_;
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This made me cry in a way a lot of media doesn't. I'm just glad you were able to build a life as a successful artist.
Did you attend your dad's funeral? It's okay if you didn't.
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According to a more recent journal. Her Dad lied about the whole thing.
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I’m so sorry this happened to you. I hope and pray that there eyes have been opened. To see what they have done and try to make things bright again. Your voice should always matter.
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Wow they sounded so cruel. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. It was unneeded.
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This comic still resonates with me to this day from when you first posted this.
Adults and parents think that they're making the best decisions for us but as well grow up we realize that parents are no more immature and selfish as any other human being. But the thing is that this is a case of emotional abuse and is something a lot of parents and people in general tend to do. Honestly telling a child to not be selfish and then carrying on a selfish act yourself makes you a hypocritical parent. But then again this world is full of hypocritical people that think that they're doing good for other people but tend to be doing more harm than good.
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It hurts even me to see you like this. I hope all your wishes come true, even if you have to get them yourself. A few years late but I've just found this, so hopefully things are a bit better.
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i realise that this might not be delicate
but wht now. i wanna know ur story
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I understand that my words may not help you much, but stay strong, because someday, all those who have wronged you will pay tenfold, and you will continue to live a happy and beautiful life. Try to put all of these horrible memories behind you, because now, you have us all behind you, all thanks to yourself. While your family built new lives, you did as well, and while they will always be in your heart, you started over in a way, and that drive in you that pushed you forward is what makes you stronger than them, better than them. Keep this in mind, and just know that to all of us, and if not that, then to me, you matter. You matter so much.
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...I can relate sadly....
but i draw and do art and make funny jokes to forget... it always follows me though...
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I'm sure half of our world is bad and the other half is good :3
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the feels are so real.....this is the perfect resemblance of how cruel and unfair reality is
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I can't imagine how that would make someone feel. I mourn with you for your lost connections and am sending my love and positive thoughts your way.
You really truly deserve better and they don't deserve someone as altruistic and wonderful as you to spend their time with. I hope you find people worthy of your
affection and that can appreciate you for who you are.
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Excuse me, really appreciate your artistic conception of painting this short man, so we came here and you want to authorize to COSPLAY, thank you
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I understand this so much it hurts just to look at. .__.
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*tries to comfort and pet you with a friendly mind yet stone heart*
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