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Happy birthday!!!
Sorry I haven't spoken in a while, I hope you have a great day!!
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Thanks. ^^
I've been less active on DA too.
I'm sure we're just busy with stuff- You've got school and all, after all.
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Hmm, hard question, for sure. I don't really have a 'persona,' you're correct.
I guess you could draw a character from one of my stories (I can describe one) but that wouldn't really be me.
Well, our most connecting interest is chickens, and I have a chicken character in one of my stories, we can probably start there.
What role will the character be playing in the story? I'm afraid this character is not a happy one. They're solemn at best and if not, extremely violent and commanding at worse. Not exact supposed to be a 'Good' character, the story revolves more about them learning to be a better and more virtuous character, but the suffering needed to cause them to change... They loose their best friend, and much of their family. So even at the end, when at their best, you can't exactly call them 'Happy.'
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The setting is shared feast of baozi (Chinese meat/ veg filled buns), being made on the spot for the guests (awesome DA peeps inc. yourself) - the feast is prepared and served by many chicks all frantically trying to keep up with consumption, antics ensuing in small comedic scenes across one setting that is decorated with party props and boiling pots.
In guess it helps if I know what the character of yours looks like, not sure if you have any particular one in your gallery - a little bio will help too
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Hmm, comedy...
I have a character who is literally a great white shark. I was writing a story from the eyes of such a creature.
Seeing them at such a celebration, just, a giant 25-foot-long shark and all, might be entertaining.
Her personality is very docile and peaceful, they wouldn't want to hurt anyone.
If that interests you, perhaps they would work? If you want to know how they look, just look up pictures of great whites. There's nothing too special about her exactly, except her timid personality.
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Sounds good 
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Sorry for the late reply.
Technically she named herself, so it's a bit strange at best. She mentally refers to herself as Zixey, though that's more of a 'translation to human words,' as sharks do not have vocal cords and therefore do not comprehend use of words. More of a way of referring to themselves.
But we need to have a name to call them, so Zixey is her name.
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Np! Awesome thnx, working on the clean lines now - I'm so slow >.>!!
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It's alright. Work as slowly as you'd like, I'm in no rush. Good luck! I'm sure it's a lot of work, I bet there is a lot of other people set up for this.
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Thanks for your encouragement
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I had thought I was already and was confused to find I wasn't. Your welcome.
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Oh, I see >0> Glad to have you here nevertheless
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Thanks for the WATCH and comments!! It really means a lot ^_^
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Your welcome. I'm interested in what you're drawing.
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Your welcome.
I like animals a lot, and your panda was quite whimsical. ^^
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Thanks so much for stopping by to comment
You have some great art pieces here ^_^ *watches*
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Wow- Thanks. I don't quite understand why, I guess I'm just too average, but not a whole lot of people watch me. Though lately it would make sense, since I have been drawing less.
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I liked your gallery from a glance, nothing average at all! But mostly I watched you 'cos you put a lot of time commenting on my work and I really appreciated that.
Feel free to watch me back if you like my lame joke chicken comics, I try to submit one per month
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Ah, I see.
Actually, I've been (silently) watching at least a portion of your work from the Chicken Club you submit it to for some time now. Some of it is fairly amusing, and your style is consistent, which is good for most anything.
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Ah cool. I'm still working on the consistency, thank you for noticing
Comics are a hobby of mine to bring some happiness, if it makes others happy too then it is a definite bonus ^_^
How about you? What motivates you for your art?
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Yeah. I think I only make comics of some gameplay, and sometimes silly things I think of. The gameplay is the only ones with reoccurring characters.
Motivates me for my art... Hmmm. Maybe if I knew, I wouldn't fall into artblock like I do. Rather, my inspiration can go back and forth, but - I'd say, I create a lot of creatures and worlds, and I like to illustrate them, so people can see what I 'saw' in my head.
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That's cool
Looking forward to seeing more if your work.
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Thanks for the watch! I promise, I'll give you some vodka
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Nah, no Vodka for me. I can't stand alcoholic stuff for some reason, they all taste so bitter to me.
My family likes a certain guinness beer shake made with icecream and stuff... If my own shake is made in the same blender, the trace amount of beer shake left, I can taste the alcohol, and I won't want the shake.
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Salutations. Honestly, I fail a bit at being active on here, or have been as of late. I'll probably wake up again soon, in any degree. Just as a forewarning.
Nice to see ya - Your user. You know of the species of wolf that lived naturally in Texas? Red Wolves?
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thank you for the heads up.
red wolves use to naturally live in texas before our ancestors hunted them to the brink of nonexistence. 
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Well, some of our ancestors - I mean, some people have native American decent, or are immigrants. For my own family - Immigrants from other countries and states, and native Americans, is the lot of us. To say, - provided you're not of completely European descent - some ancestors did, and some ancestors did not, send them to extinction.
But true to say as a general rule, when the Europeans came to the Americas, they started annihilating every wolf they came across. Part way prejudice against a species, and the other part, protection of livestock. Primarily prejudice, however, as it is clearly seen that with proper distances kept, we can have our wolves AND our livestock... As well as not hunting the wolves' main prey ourselves.
Red wolves were killed off more quickly than the other species, due to lack of places to go - Fewer mountain ranges or land that can't be used for farm or livestock, mean't more human settling, and no where to hide. Grey wolves were more capable of retreating to cold arctic areas where men did not yet settle, or mountains with terrain too rough for anyone to bother following them for long.
A secondary killer of the Red-wolves was their close resemblance to coyotes. Though their behavior varied greatly (Red wolves being, of course, wolves, and thus, an animal that hunts in packs, where as coyotes hunt alone but meet as families on occasion), appearance-wise, red wolves and coyotes weren't quite as different. Though still different, their size, pelt color, and general facial features, were more coyote-like than that of most wolves. Henceforth, when their numbers started to decline, when they were less red wolves - Individuals started looking to start their families with coyotes, due to being unable to find another of their own kind. Having the wolf-genes mix with the coyote genes was a near disaster, as it mean't there would soon be no more pure-bred wolves, and as people kept killing the wolves off, the coyote percentage would slowly 'water down' the wolf percent of genes in any individual. To say, it would go from half-wolf, to quarter-wolf, 1/8th wolf, 1/16th wolf... Until the wolfblood would be 'watered down' to such a faint presence that it might as well just be a coyote, not a wolf.
Fortunately we managed to save our wolves from this fate, however they only live on a very small reserve now, I believe. Redwolves originally ranged all over the southern USA and Mexico. Not any more, and they no longer live in Texas at all. The reserve is somewhere else.
There was, at one point, only 14 pure-bred Red wolves in existence.
Ironically, people didn't attack the coyotes quite as ferociously, despite the fact that they posed the same threat to their livestock. The difference was the prejudice towards wolves... These days, mankind is much more accepting of wolves, some even adoring them. Some so much that I hear some people complain about all the 'wolfaboos' running around. Personally, I don't think you can like any animal too much, just as long as you don't see other animals as inferior in the process.
Perceiving animals as overly aggressive is one form of animal stereotype that can clearly cause harm, but another is seeing an animal as exceptionally weak or dumb.
Er... I've said a lot in response to something much smaller, so I'll speak about the effects of other forms of animal prejudice after I hear (listen and respond to as well) to your next reply. ^^' So you can get a word in and all.
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that's.... so.... sad.
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Indeed, it is, but at least they're stable now. As in, no one is killing them any more.
Loneliness? The lack of wolves makes one feel lonely? I think I can compare a bit, if so.
Be warned, long response below! Read in your own time and at your own pace, I don't mind. ^^'
As previously mentioned, at least the wolves are vaguely stable now. Not so, for our wild camel populations. All camels living in the African deserts are now gone, extinct. Only a small group of bacterian (Two-humped) camels live in one of China's deserts, the Gobi desert, I believe. In the wild, camels are more endangered than pandas.
We can't just throw domestic camels into the desert, either. Domestic camels are not adapted to those environments as much any longer... However, it might be worth trying, considering Australia has reported a small, invasive feral camel population.
If, more endangered than pandas, then we don't people hear about it as much? Well... Considering their reputation of being rude, stubborn, and spitting on people - Compared to the 'cute and cuddle' reputation of our pandas - people are putting far more work into rescuing the pandas than the camels. Which - Hey, it's GREAT they're saving the pandas! I don't want those to die off either. But I think we need to pay heed to all species, particularly when stereotypes never really fit the animal. I don't think I've ever seen a correct stereotype.
For starters, I'll explain camels a bit better. Camels won't indefinitely spit on you - It depends on the individual. Camels, believe it or not, can hold grudges. If you look like someone who has teased or hurt them in the past, or if they've had bad experience with humans or tourists in general, then yes, it might spit on you unprovokedly. One report even mentioned of someone who teased one of the camels that tourists ride on, even kicking it as he rode it - Later when he got off, it came over and trampled him... Considering that camels are large animals, this did kill the man, and it's not particularly positive that the instance occurred - No, it is a negative occurrence, that someone should die, or some animal be mocked - it does prove a point of camels getting angry.
As pets, or towards trusted and loved owner, I've heard camels can be very sweet. And loyal. As far as riding camels goes - If your not the owner, don't try to steer it. The camel won't listen. Not to us, anyway - He'll only listen to his owner, and his owner alone. Makes selling camels difficult - If you didn't raise it, but someone else, then it might never really obey you unless it sees why it should.
I did, however, do research on camels used in war. One particular war some years back, in India... USA wasn't involved, so it's not a big deal over here, and I don't know who was fighting who, since I was entirely focused on the camels - But, in this war, as it was quite some time back, before cars were really any good and horses still preferred (However, guns and heavy artillery were present.), sometimes they'd use cavalries of camels in battle, because for some strange reason, horses feared the scent of camels. I know one of the ways horses identify predators is by scent, so by some means, somehow camels happened to smell like a predator... Yet Donkeys were not afraid, so they'd be able to keep donkeys and camels in the same camp.
Donkeys likely did not fear camels due to coming, or originating from the same environment - The Sahara desert. I'll get into donkeys some other time.
Another good thing about camels was their large size allowed them to carry heavy guns, and they're still pretty fast animals.
One tactic camel riders would have, if attacked or ambushed, or in any circumstances were it'd be effective - They'd have the camel lie down on the ground, and they'd shoot from behind them, using their own beast as a shield. Again to say, loyalty surely must be a factor somewhere. It made stealing camels from the enemies camp a pain as well. Stealing something absolutely stubborn, impossible to steer and constantly trying to spit in your face or worse, trample you... Isn't worth the camel.
Not everyone knows, but it seems to make more sense when people think about it - Camels and llamas are rather related to each other. Both spit, for sure. And camels even have a winter coat - The nights and winters of China's deserts get cold, while their days and summers are blisteringly hot. Bacterians, I believe, are constantly furry, to deal with the cold by night, rather than fur-less for the heat of day...
That would be to give an example of stereotypes not really being correct. Stereotyping has and had a part to play in the near-extinction of our wolves and other animals too. We think well of wolves now, but not as much, say, vultures. Egyptian Vultures themselves are also critically endangered - And personally, I think they look pretty neat. Ever seen a white vulture with a hairdo?
For an example of an animal literally killed off for nothing but reputation - Have you ever heard of a Thylacine? They're extinct now, but played the role of the wolf in Australia. They hunted kangaroos in packs, and were very interesting, large predatory marsupials. They got a reputation as chicken-killers (Of which there was no proof that they were) and were hunted to extinction with such speed that we never seemed to have time to say, 'hey, wait!'
Giving an animal a positive reputation instead of a negative one, can be helpful in some circumstances - I mean, it helps the animal get the attention it needs to be rescued - But can bring attention away from it's relatives as well. Everyone knows of dolphins - Most think of Bottlenose dolphins. Less people think of hourglass dolphins or Risso's dolphins. The pink river dolphin and vaquita porpoise - particularly the vaquita - are lesser known species, but both severely endangered. The baiji river dolphin, a river dolphin that lived in China, is already extinct due to us humans. Most people probably don't know what a Baiji dolphin is, or that it ever existed - That's why it's gone now, partially. We don't even know what killed it, exactly, only theories. Famous species of a group can draw attention away from the others like that.
Not to mention the fact that sometimes our positive interpretations of animals are incorrect. Dolphins - Bottlenose dolphins - can indeed be dangerous. They are extremely intelligent animals, and are therefore unpredictable. The more intelligent and comprehending an animal becomes, the more that said animal can understand right and wrong - Harm and help. Less comprehending animals are less likely to help, and less likely to do unprovoked harm. More comprehending animals are more likely to help, but also more likely to do unprovoked harm. Whether right or wrong leads them in actions depends on the individual. For example - Some humans are nice and would bake you cookies. Some humans are less nice and would point a gun at you... This is due to our high intelligence and comprehension. We understand more right, and more wrong. We can go either way. It's the same story with dolphins. They know we need air, hence why they can save us from drowning. With this knowledge, 'humans need air,' they can similarly choose to drown us. And that has happened before. Some dolphins become bitter, and even try to drown calves of their own kind. Dolphin parents can be abusive, or not abusive at all, and it can affect their dolphin children. In other words - A dolphin is like a stranger, you don't know them. Unless you know them, don't go swimming with them. There is a law here, against interacting with wild dolphins - Though it has multiple reasons for existing, this is one of them.
Not to say all dolphins are innately aggressive... We just don't know per any individual, they are unpredictable and intelligent. Having a reputation of being these creature of pure light and good, gets some people in bad situations with the wrong dolphins. So there is another reason why good stereotypes... Aren't so good.
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so why do you answer in such a long winded mater and never talk about yourself; do you don't want people to know you?
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Me? Oh. I don't mind telling people about myself, I suppose. It doesn't come to mind as often. I mean, I love to talk, about any topic welcomed, almost - Those who get to know me, I will eventually ramble about something concerning myself at some point or another.
But the first thing I tend to jump to is animals.
Well, here's something about myself that I don't just tell any random person, but that might explain some things to you - Am I a high-functioning autistic. Now, for any who has done research on autism or knows more about it than what our society simply blatantly things, one will know this means something rather specific...
I'll try to get to the main point. High-functioning is just what it means. I function. Quite well, really, excepting in social situation. Austism is specifically classified as a communication disorder - Our minds work fine, but our ability to speak, express, and communicate, may be impaired. In fact, most are actually extremely intelligent, factual, or mathematical - Did you know Einstein showed much proof of being autistic?
There is also a spectrum. From 1-10. 9 and 10, normally can't speak at all. 1 and 2 look like normal people, although maybe a bit nerdy... Okay, serious nerds, actually. Lack of communication and expression means it hard for us to 'fit in.' The time in our lives we spend as adolescents are often filled with rejection and isolation, or worse yet, bullying... We don't pick up on styles or any of that too easily. So there's one thing to it - We think independently. This can be good or bad, depending on the subject.
To say further, most people with autism, find something which they really like to focus on. A 'hobby' or 'special interest.' We can have many, or only one. But we seldom focus on anything more, or have difficulty with such. Thus is born an idea that we don't learn well.
We learn great - When we're interested. I'm interested in animals, and have learned a great deal about them. However, I am less interested in math.
There is, of course, more to it than what is explained here. Unlike Down syndrome, or other related such things, Autism is not the result of a missing chromosome or added chromosome. It is only hereditary, and is actually a brain structure... Not a disease or anything. Some people ask about 'medication for autism,' or 'cures.' It doesn't work that way. That's like asking for a cure for having blue eyes, really.
I like animals a lot. They are one of my 'special interests.' So it autism itself. I could tell you a lot about autism, but I'll try to make this response shorter.
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I know the felling in a nerd and a Greek when it comes to firearm, I have very few friends, I was bullied in school and I have troble being romantic with girl in real life. I also know the effects of extreme Austism an old friend of mine has it and it's hard for him to talk to others.
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Interesting. I don't mean it's good that you went through that, however - That's awful. Personally, I'm glad to talk to you, that your a good listener.
I'd believe you... Autism can make it hard to speak for some, social anxiety and the like.
However, it looks different depending on whether it's an autistic girl or an autistic boy. Autistic girls are less common than autistic boys... Not as uncommon as often thought - Girls are naturally more expressive and talkative, and better at mimicking by nature. So, the social effects of autism are less present within them, depending on the case. Most learn to mimic social ques, without even knowing why or what they're mimicking.
One example - A woman who, even in her teenage years, seemed completely normal, cheerleader, had a football-playing boyfriend, all that stuff... Later in her life, gets married, has kids, each one is autistic - So she goes to get tested, and finds out, all these years, she too had been autistic. Girls are better at hiding it, by carefully mimicking the 'normal' people around them. If a girl shows it, it probably means she has more than just 1 or 2 on the spectrum... Similarly, 9 to 8 on the spectrum for girls, may still speak, even if in more simple sentences.
However, regardless of gender, most autistic people are actually introverted. (Hang at the edge of rooms, quiet, don't like crowds, prefer a group of close friends to many friends, tire out with too much social interaction, ect.) Extroverted autistics happen, but are less common - rather rare, actually. Your not likely to find one.
It's got more complications than simply a social disorder, however... Ever heard of autistic 'headbanging?' As it so happens, autistic people tend to be very sensitive, in a variety of ways. One of the ways they are sensitive is to things like sound, smell, touch, taste... Even sight at times. They are not usually the best multi-taskers, our specialty lies in single-focus. Single focus of interests, such as 'only mathematics' or 'mostly animals and a couple other things but not much else,' but also single-focus in most other places. For example - We hear two sounds. A train, and someone talking. We'll hear one or the other. Or... At least we'd like. Our sensitivity to hearing means we hear both, equally well, and lack the mental ability to 'block out' or 'tune out' undesired sounds. However, our minds are not really adapted to take TWO focuses, so... Essentially, for those who are more autistic and thus, more sensitive, forcing them to multitask... Hurts. Hurts so much, that they often bang their heads to try and knock themselves out. Over stimulus.
Now, the train and the voice was a mere example, high-functioning are not as often that sensitive, or are more capable of handling multiple sounds. Still, if any sound or smell or taste, is too strong or too loud, it can still get to them, and is still a form of over-stimulus, as autistic people are in-generally sensitive to over-stimulus.
Ironically, one thing we're often not as sensitive to is pain. Some seem to have less, to no sense of physical pain. On the other hand, some are the complete opposite, and feel more pain than normal humans. Like... Someone stubs their toe. The one who might feel more pain could feel as if they broke it - The one who feels less pain might not even notice.
...I sprained my ankle once, and kept walking, not aware until I had worsened it to a degree. It wasn't a severe sprain, and I sorta felt something, but shrugged it off as a bruise - I wish I had not. My mother made me go on clutches for a while. I hated that.
I hope this doesn't sound strange, but I find it intriguing you've had less luck in romance. As in, scientifically intriguing. I'm not saying your autistic, but to mention, many autistic men have trouble finding love in life. ...Autistic people are very literal. We don't understand flirting. If girls want to be flirted with, autistic men cannot give them that. This leads them to be sadly disfavored. My father, from whom I get most autism from, had trouble finding a girl.
I suppose to tell you, since it'd be silly to continue explaining this without clarifying - You are speaking to an autistic girl. An extroverted one, at that. I do not mind talking to random people at all. Granted, I may talk their ears off, if they allow me. Not much point to warning you now, about having your ears talked off - May have already occurred.
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it's okay ma'am. :3
it's good to talk to someone, I find it easier to talk romantically to girl how are online then in real life. I'm Isaac Perez may I ask for your name?
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Isaac. That name means 'laughter,' and has biblical origins. Have you ever looked up your name/names?
As for myself, I don't give away my name but to people who I know better (Over some years or so), sorry if I appear impolite.
Though I did explain that girls want to be flirted with, I'm not saying I think that's proper. It can get them in a lot of trouble - Some 'charming' people might not be so charming later on, or even through marriage. Plenty of humans can lie, and with girls usually being more oriented or swayed by romantic words, it makes them more susceptible to lies and the like. Likewise, there are plenty of honest, straight-foreward, good men who they'd be very happy with, if they could drop the notion that they need to have witting remarks about their beauty. To a degree, that notion cannot be dropped. It's important to a girl's affection for a man, for him to compliment her and the like. If he does not, there will be an issue keeping her interested. Girls typically desire more than 'You look attractive.' Best remarks compliment who they are on the inside. Really, links in more thoroughly with biology... Women tend to focus more on the relationship. Some, maybe even up to quarter of the female population, is actually content with no physical relations, but only emotional. Men, however, - as far as I know - always desire physical relations. This is due to the fact that, one way they express and feel emotionally connected - I hear - is through that physical bond? Even though, as being austistic, my mind works differently than other girls (Compliments really don't mean anything to me, and I don't often find myself feeling any kind of romantic feelings for... Anyone, at all. Like... No human I've ever set eyes on. 8I ) I'm still not a guy, so I can only use what I know through science and what my father has told me to form guesses on the norm. I suppose it's no different between me and girls, though. I don't always understand them either.
Now, there is indeed an explanation for that.
Let's start with the fact that, boys and girls use different parts of their brains to coordinate eye movement. One of the gender differences in human brains, really. Now - Autistic boys, use a completely different part of their brain to coordinate eye movement. They don't use what other boys use, but they also don't use what girls use. Just... Different. They still have male hormones, but their brain structure is very different.
Now, an autistic girl is a bit closer to normal humans, I would suppose, in the fact that she uses the same part of her brain to coordinate eye movement as a normal boy. They have other brainy-similarities to boys. However, still posses female hormones.
Interestingly, from my observance, autistic boys and girls, might react differently to those hormones than normal people. From what I've seen - Most autistic men and boys, who I have encountered as friend or as family, seem to have over-average interest in finding romance, or subtly put as 'drive.' Whereas my research on autism in girls portrays that, they have a tenancy towards asexuality, and if not asexual, very very very low drive.
Asexuality being 'I don't care about the physical stuff, it means nothing to me.' They do not desire kisses. They do not desire hugs. Nothing. I compare to this, but how could I not, being of the same condition?
But in truth, as this is good for scientific example - They can still get romantic feelings. They'll just be pickier, more selective, and likely not choose off of the same standards of other women. Other women might ask if he was charming - The autistic girl might ask... Well, any number of things, really, but one could be something as simple as a single aspect of his personality... For them, romance comes through long-term friendship. To give an example - I too, have felt romantic feelings before. But, came through friendship for over a year. That person has been out of contact for over a year now as well, but the feelings remain. It's rather troublesome. I've never seen them, I haven't a clue how they look, for it was actually over online... I'm home-schooled, so, simply put, most of my friends are online. But I've known them all for years. To describe further, for I am a scientific example for an autistic girl (Even if I'm less interested in describing such personal information) I do no find myself desiring to have any physical contact with the person I developed feelings for. I just want to talk to them. I get to talk to them in any situation, and I feel happy. There would be nothing else I really wanted. - I hear most normal girls want to at least kiss or hug or something. Not all, but, 70% of them. I don't compare to that.
...My personal opinion follows that kissing is gross.
However, even normal women can have complicated standards. I'd normally cut off this part of my topic, to give you less to read, but seeing as I'm about to explain normal people a bit more, perhaps it'd interest you.
I have noticed, at a young age, girls 'pick out' certain men in their life who they look up to or admire. Usually their father, but they can have multiple men they look up to - Maybe an uncle or a big brother, or a grandfather. Or even all of them. And, later in life, when the girl starts looking for love, she actually looks for traits - physical and of personality - in men, that she saw in the ones she looked up to as a child. If her father shaved, she's likely to seek a man without a beard. If her father never shaved, beard will be of utmost importance to her. And, if she had multiple different men she looked up to, she may take different aspects of each one - Say her uncle was rash and temperamental - Say her father was calm and dignified - Then, she may look for someone who is both a bit of a hothead but also dignified. For as much as every father is different, every girl's preference is different. In that specific way, men may have more luck than women - A woman can be generically ugly and thus dis-valued, but if a man will simply 'be himself', and befriend and get to know a girl and allow her to get to know him on a casual basis - Eventually, he'll look like someone's father or uncle. Unless he's a rare personality type or the sort - As long as other men like him exist, and have raised daughters, those daughters will be interested.
But, girls standards can also be set by the society, especially as teenagers. As teenagers, they 'go with the flow,' try to fit in. Culture and such can train them 'what they're supposed to like.' Teenage girls might have slightly more unrealistic expectations. However, most grow out of those as they enter adulthood.
So, for a summry, a girl mostly looks at her father's personality, and a bit less at his physical appearance (Though she'll still take physical appearance into consideration.)
Men, I have realized or come to notice, it is opposite - He'll look to his mother's form or appearance, perhaps? And a bit less at her personality, but he may still take personality into consideration.
...To give an example, a boy has a loving, quiet mother... Who's hips are on the wider side, but very little going for her chest area. She is modest and moral however, and so these mean nothing to her - She does not care really, so she dresses casually - She is focused on taking care of her child, not the world's opinion. Perhaps as he gets older, he'll find himself a bit interested in wider hips in girls, but content with a smaller chest area, as his mother's form pertained. Teenage boys, like teenage girls, can also be 'taught by culture' what they're suppose to like, say through anime or anything like that, but they too can grow out of that. As there are many different human forms, there are men with varying interest in human form. Some, even focus more on face than form.
I mean, it makes sense according to Evolution and whatnot, if you think about if. Any organism wants to spread it's genes with genes that survive - A child must know that, obviously their parent is an example of surviving genes, because their parent lived to create them.
There would be two things to consider when looking for surviving genes - The bodily makeup of the other organism (How well-suited physically it is) and the behavior of the organism (Personality, how it reacts to problems in it's environment.). Both genders look for both, but men are more oriented to the physical, and women more to the emotional. When put together, it equals out - Physical and emotional. Both sides of the puzzle. People these days keep saying there's no difference between men and women, especially feminists. But - There is a big difference, and this is one of them. Inferior to superior? No, definitely not. But difference, yes.
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you make a lot of interesting points and conclusion on the limited amount of information and first day experiences. I tried to date I girl in school high she was in my JROCT (junior reserve officer training corps) program we didn't last to long that is when I started to date girls here on Deviant art it easier to get to know someone here a lot of people are nice. after i was broken up with i stop looking a mate by her body and more by her mind and personally. Thou i do crave a physical romantic relationship but, only after i know that the women i would like to become my mate is a nice person. thou this is my first time talking to a female who's autistic.
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Hmm.
Meeting potential partners over long distance isn't bad, but I might advise, don't make friends thinking they could potentially be someone for you. Just be friends and try to relax, or not care, if you can. You'd need to know each other for years before it'd be something really stable enough... Online things are tricky, is easier to hide things or claim things that aren't true. That is to say, don't actively seek in terms of, just be her friend. This goes for any interaction.
Best and most pleasurable marriages, are between best friends.
Even then, maybe your personality doesn't fit in with what they prefer - A man can be friends with a woman, but say she's Asian and he prefers African women? Not that they can't be friends, but these things go for personality as well, and are even trickier online. No girls will befriend with direct romantic interested online, except on dating sites made for such a purpose. Here, they will be completely oriented to simple conversation. Just be their friend - If anything will happen, then you'll need a personality alike to their father's (Surely, you must look like someone's father.), and if you fit that ticket for anyone, it may go somewhere from there. But slowly.
Truly, I don't see many other autistic girls. Much less ones willing to be sociable - Like I said, many are introverts. And... Every human is different. Some non-autistic people are easy to get along with, some non-autistic people aren't. Non-autistic people can be mature or immature - Humans vary greatly, as most learn. It is no different between autism. With differences in my raising, other autistic girls will be different as well. Over online, those who claim autism that I've seen... Aren't very mature for some reason. It's aggrivating. But then. Most girls I see of that same age group hold to the same story - 12 to 14-year-olds all over.
There is also unique differences in autistic women and men. Normal women and men have obvious differences, but due to the different brain structure, autistic people look a bit more different between gender. For one thing, they seem to take drive difference to the extreme - Men want more, women want less. The men don't know how to flirt, and the women don't find themselves wanting it. (Marriages between two autistic people divorce less than marriages between one autistic and one not.) On the other hand... Autistic girls tend to be the violent or sometimes competitive ones. The boys less so. This may change as they come older - The men will become more willing to fight as they age, but as young men, don't have the same 'fighting instinct' that other boys have. However, autistic girls will in every way share this fighting instinct even at a young age. Honestly, though still young and aggressive, as a kid - Even just 6 or 7 years old - I was wanting to fight. I thought I could win, too. I really really wanted to actually fight, kind of 'waiting for that one glorious moment when someone finally decides to mess with me.' That moment never happened. No one ever bothered me, to my disappointment. Probably better that way, young children can overestimate themselves... Even then, with high pain threshhold, as I came to learn martial arts and do sparring with others later - I learned hits don't hinder me much. Don't feel them as well.
Aside of autistic boys being less violent and autistic girls being more so, autistic girls are more expressive and talkative than their male counterparts. Still, perhaps less expressive, since they're still autistic. Less prone to being restricted in interests than the boys as well...
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